Posts tagged with 'conflict'
A project to change long-term interpersonal patterns: post-group reflections
4th March 2015
In a recent post - "A project to change long-term interpersonal patterns: at a residential group" - I described a fairly classic example of the sort of tangle I can sometimes get into interpersonally (probably especially in group therapy environments), where others may see me as judgemental, a bit condescending, …
A project to change long-term interpersonal patterns: at a residential group
28th February 2015
"A friend is someone who sees the potential in you and helps you to live it." W. B. Yeats (adapted) "Man cannot remake himself without suffering, for he is both the marble and the sculptor." Dr. Alexis Carrel I wrote a post a couple of days ago - "A project …
A project to change long-term interpersonal patterns: background
25th February 2015
I have just got back from a rather wonderful two week holiday in Kerala with my wife, Catero. It was very special ... and one of the interesting spin-offs was the perspective one can get looking back at one's everyday life typically played out over 5,000 miles away. I'm immensely …
A project to change longterm interpersonal patterns: finding a therapist
20th February 2015
Needs-Beliefs-Behaviours See too Nissen-Lie et al's "Patient and therapist perspectives on alliance development: Therapists' practice experiences as predictors" with its finding about the toxic effects on client rated therapeutic alliance produced by the "leaking" of unspoken critical therapist. "Humble warmth" "Therapist predictors of early patient-rated working alliance: A multilevel approach" …
Peer residential group, final morning: review, group function & the benefit of working with difficulties (4th post)
9th September 2014
Yesterday we had the final morning of the 'long weekend' three day Scottish Mixed Group. I have already written posts about arriving, and the first and the second full days. This was the fourth year that we had met for these annual get-togethers that run from Friday evening to Monday …
Peer residential group, second full day: meditation, turbulence, sharing, conflict & singing (3rd post)
8th September 2014
I wrote yesterday about the first full day of this Scottish Peer Mixed Group, singing a celebration of what felt like one of the really special days of my life. And then yesterday the river of the group slipped into more shadow for me, the emotional/interpersonal weather changing. Squalls, rain, …
A startlingly effective way to reduce interpersonal conflict and distress - discussion & broader applications
19th September 2013
(this post is downloadable both as a PDF file and as a Word doc) Yesterday I wrote a blog post on the very interesting & encouraging recent research paper "A brief intervention to promote conflict reappraisal preserves marital quality over time" which introduces a simple reappraisal method with great promise …
A startlingly effective way to reduce interpersonal conflict and distress - the intervention & results described
18th September 2013
(this post is downloadable both as a PDF file and as a Word doc) The recent research paper "A brief intervention to promote conflict reappraisal preserves marital quality over time" describes a startlingly effective way to reduce interpersonal conflict and distress. The results are clearly extremely relevant for anyone in …
Therapeutic alliance ruptures/tensions: description, frequency, causes & effects
11th July 2013
I wrote a blog post yesterday entitled "Therapeutic alliance ruptures: common, very challenging & a key area for increasing therapist (and personal) helpfulness". I think this area is so important that I'd like to spend additional time exploring it more thoroughly. I want to clarify what we mean by an …
"Therapeutic alliance ruptures": common, very challenging & a key area for increasing therapist (and personal) helpfulness
10th July 2013
We had another of our small peer Emotion-Focused Therapy supervision/practice groups yesterday evening. Half a dozen of us were able to make it. We'd agreed we would look particularly at "therapeutic alliance ruptures" at this meeting. As a doctor, I can't help finding the term "alliance rupture" rather giggle-inducing. I …