Posts tagged with 'attachment'
Power objects, power postures, power clothes, power prayers: all ways to facilitate change (2nd post)
21st July 2012
"Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work" Thomas Edison In yesterday's post - "Power objects, power postures, power clothes, power prayers: all ways to facilitate change (1st post)" - I introduced recent research highlighting how we can use physical objects and …
Power objects, power postures, power clothes, power prayers: all ways to facilitate change (1st post)
20th July 2012
"I will love you like a wind, like a man stitching a skin together like a winter coat. Like a man sitting in meditation and repairing a cracking spirit. Like a man in love with a leaf, a cloud, a flame, a temple. Like a man on fire running in …
Greater good science center & the wisdom of babies
8th August 2011
Recently I was looking at the idealistic & interesting website "Greater good: the science of a meaningful life". Their mission statement reads "The Greater Good Science Center studies the psychology, sociology, and neuroscience of well-being, and teaches skills that foster a thriving, resilient, and compassionate society. Based at the University …
Conflict: not too much, not too little - and how to make it constructive
21st May 2011
(this post is downloadable as both a Word doc and as a PDF file). I wrote yesterday about conflict and the costs of over- and under-assertiveness. Today's post adds further thoughts about making conflict constructive. Relationships are the source of much of humanity's greatest joys and greatest sorrows. They have …
Conflict: not too much, not too little - some research suggestions
20th May 2011
(this post is downloadable as both a Word doc and as a PDF file). Occasional disagreement and conflict are pretty much inevitable. I scanned Medline for relevant research articles to see if there are any helpful insights that have emerged recently. As usual when one trawls for information, hundreds of …
Boosting self-compassion & self-encouragement by strengthening attachment security: twelve practical suggestions (7-12)
27th March 2011
This blog post is downloadable both as a Word doc and as a PDF file. Last week I gave the first six of a dozen ideas for boosting self-compassion & self-encouragement in the blog post "Boosting self-compassion ... twelve practical suggestions (1-6)". Here are a further half dozen ideas. Remember …
Boosting self-compassion & self-encouragement by strengthening attachment security: twelve practical suggestions (1-6)
20th March 2011
This blog post is downloadable both as a Word doc and as a PDF file. Research suggests that self-compassion may be as much as ten times more relevant than mindfulness for improvements in anxiety, depression & quality of life (Van Dam, Sheppard et al. 2011), although the two concepts (self-compassion …
Recent research: three studies on CBT, one on implementation intentions and two on compassion
17th March 2011
Here are details of half a dozen recent research papers - three on CBT, one on implementation intentions (and CBT), and two on compassion. Fuller details, links and abstracts of all the studies mentioned are given further down this post. The first, by Gulliksson et al, is "Randomized Controlled Trial …
Behavioural systems (attachment, care giving, exploration, sex & power): using imagery & compassion to fine tune them
13th March 2011
A week ago I wrote a post "Behavioural systems (attachment, care giving, exploration, sex & power): hyperactivated, hypoactivated or just about right?" where I talked about Shaver & Mikulincer's model of five behavioural systems - care seeking, care giving, exploration, sex & power - which ideally fire up appropriately when …
Behavioural systems (attachment, care giving, exploration, sex & power): hyperactivated, hypoactivated or just about right?
6th March 2011
Overall - along with 50 to 60% of the population - I qualify as "securely attached". I was fortunate in being brought up by loving parents who left me with an internalised "secure attachment script" that runs something like "If I feel a bit insecure or threatened, there will be …