Posts tagged with 'personal'
Personal ‘retreat’: first reflection – setting the scene
20th February 2016
So here I am bright & early on the first full day of a ten-day personal retreat at the Krishnamurti Study Centre in Hampshire. Why? Well I was conscious of three intertwining reasons when I booked this time away several months ago. One is about doing & being, another about …
A project to change long-term interpersonal patterns: building & maintaining commitment
8th April 2015
"Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds, wake in the day to find that it was but vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dreams with open eyes, to make it possible." T. E. Lawrence Our lives …
A project to change long-term interpersonal patterns: post-group reflections
4th March 2015
In a recent post - "A project to change long-term interpersonal patterns: at a residential group" - I described a fairly classic example of the sort of tangle I can sometimes get into interpersonally (probably especially in group therapy environments), where others may see me as judgemental, a bit condescending, …
A project to change long-term interpersonal patterns: at a residential group
28th February 2015
"A friend is someone who sees the potential in you and helps you to live it." W. B. Yeats (adapted) "Man cannot remake himself without suffering, for he is both the marble and the sculptor." Dr. Alexis Carrel I wrote a post a couple of days ago - "A project …
A project to change long-term interpersonal patterns: background
25th February 2015
I have just got back from a rather wonderful two week holiday in Kerala with my wife, Catero. It was very special ... and one of the interesting spin-offs was the perspective one can get looking back at one's everyday life typically played out over 5,000 miles away. I'm immensely …
A project to change longterm interpersonal patterns: finding a therapist
20th February 2015
Needs-Beliefs-Behaviours See too Nissen-Lie et al's "Patient and therapist perspectives on alliance development: Therapists' practice experiences as predictors" with its finding about the toxic effects on client rated therapeutic alliance produced by the "leaking" of unspoken critical therapist. "Humble warmth" "Therapist predictors of early patient-rated working alliance: A multilevel approach" …
Practising "being": remembering to wake up, appreciate & be open to surprise
24th September 2014
In her wonderful poem "The summer day", Mary Oliver wrote: Who made the world? Who made the swan, and the black bear? Who made the grasshopper? This grasshopper, I mean - the one who has flung herself out of the grass, the one who is eating sugar out of my …
Peer residential group, final morning: review, group function & the benefit of working with difficulties (4th post)
9th September 2014
Yesterday we had the final morning of the 'long weekend' three day Scottish Mixed Group. I have already written posts about arriving, and the first and the second full days. This was the fourth year that we had met for these annual get-togethers that run from Friday evening to Monday …
Arriving at the Scottish mixed peer residential group: settling in (1st post)
6th September 2014
I have been involved with interpersonal group work since being blown away by my first experience at a weekend workshop way back in 1972. Although I was pretty much a paid-up hippie at the time (and a medical student as well), I had little experience of people deeply & honestly …
A day spent "idle & blessed": revisiting an experiment - savouring & "positive state mindfulness"
20th April 2013
Last September I went back to Cambridge for a reunion ... the first time I'd ever been back to school or university for such a thing. It was an experiment in "emotional archaeology" and I wrote a series of blog posts about it. At one stage I experimented with a …