Posts tagged with 'conflict'
Conflict: not too much, not too little - the importance of assertiveness in close relationships
4th June 2011
(this post is downloadable as both a Word doc and as a PDF file). I've recently written a couple of posts on conflict - "Conflict: not too much, not too little - some research suggestions" and "Conflict: not too much, not too little - how to make it constructive". Today …
Conflict: not too much, not too little - and how to make it constructive
21st May 2011
(this post is downloadable as both a Word doc and as a PDF file). I wrote yesterday about conflict and the costs of over- and under-assertiveness. Today's post adds further thoughts about making conflict constructive. Relationships are the source of much of humanity's greatest joys and greatest sorrows. They have …
Conflict: not too much, not too little - some research suggestions
20th May 2011
(this post is downloadable as both a Word doc and as a PDF file). Occasional disagreement and conflict are pretty much inevitable. I scanned Medline for relevant research articles to see if there are any helpful insights that have emerged recently. As usual when one trawls for information, hundreds of …
Peer groups, Cumbria spring group – third morning: authenticity, learning & interpersonal conflict
7th May 2011
Have I screwed up? I wrote yesterday about the first full day of this peer residential group. I woke this morning with wisps of cloud in my mind ... a flash of Lady MacBeth ("out, damned spot") ... a whisper of shame, of guilt. I was very direct with someone …
Peer groups: Ravenstor autumn group 3 - depth & confrontation
14th November 2010
The third morning. So moving on from where I'd described to in yesterday's blog post, we began again in the full group at around 9.30am. Almost immediately a good friend moved very deeply into distress about fathering - his relationship with his own father & fears about passing on some …
"Cooperative behaviour cascades in social networks"
16th October 2010
"No act of kindness, however small, is ever wasted." Aesop "Keep on sowing your seed, for you never know which will grow - perhaps it all will." Einstein Our kindness (and unkindness) ripples outwards. A group of people - or a broader society - survives because its members manage to …
Opening up group, sixth session
7th October 2010
Yesterday evening was the sixth session of the "Opening up" group. It had been a longer gap than usual - ten days since our full day meeting at the fifth session. As we often do, we began with a round of "checking in"; an opportunity for all of us to …
Interpersonal group work 2
22nd February 2010
See the earlier blog post "Interpersonal group work 1" for comments and handouts particularly orientated to pre-group assessment. It's usually time very well spent, orientating would-be participants to what interpersonal process groups are likely to involve. This both speeds up the time it takes new group members to start engaging …
Interpersonal group work 1
15th February 2010
Here are a set of handouts and questionnaires that I often use when I'm running interpersonal process groups. As the "Group therapy background information" leaflet (see below) comments: "Group therapy simply means that therapeutic work is done in groups rather than one-to-one. Many different types of therapy have been tried …
My dilemma: passion or peacefulness?
5th January 2010
I had an interesting mix of experiences yesterday. It's left me wondering - about the balance between passion and peacefulness, about whether vitality and craziness fit into a meditative life, about courage and risk and exploration. I play tennis - not very well. I used to play quite a lot …