Posts tagged with 'relationships'
The 'bus driver' is warm-blooded: integrating mindfulness & emotion 1
20th November 2010
These posts on "The bus driver is warm-blooded" are downloadable as both Word and PDF handouts. In a companion post - "The bus driver metaphor" - I've talked about how valuable mindfulness can be when coping with worry, rumination and other unhelpful mental content. The growing research supporting "third wave" …
Peer groups: Ravenstor autumn group 7 - feedback, ecology & goodbyes
18th November 2010
In yesterday's second reflection on the Ravenstor residential group, I wrote about friendship and flourishing. This last morning of the residential now moved on to a final meeting of our 11 person, medium-sized group. Checking in. Reviewing. Checking out. Deeper now. Touching. I'd come into this four day group very …
Peer groups: Ravenstor autumn group 6 - respect & friendship
17th November 2010
It's a couple of days since we drove back up to Scotland from Ravenstor. I blogged yesterday about the last morning of the group and I was thinking a bit about judgements and who we choose as closer friends. I feel a bit uncomfortable exploring this issue as I don't …
Peer groups: Ravenstor autumn group 5 - valuing, connection & disconnection
16th November 2010
It's "the morning after", back home, reflecting on the group that finished yesterday at lunchtime. "Peer groups: Ravenstor autumn group 4 - nature, father-son, flow & celebration" took us up to the beginning of the group's final half day together. This last morning was pretty compressed. We'd agreed to meet …
Peer groups: Ravenstor autumn group 4 - nature, father-son, flow & celebration
15th November 2010
So the fourth and last morning here at Ravenstor. Didn't get to bed till after midnight and was up "late" this morning a little before 7.00am. The dawn mist is already clearing on a beautiful day with the sun's glow just beginning to emerge over the ridge. It reminds me …
Peer groups: Ravenstor autumn group 3 - depth & confrontation
14th November 2010
The third morning. So moving on from where I'd described to in yesterday's blog post, we began again in the full group at around 9.30am. Almost immediately a good friend moved very deeply into distress about fathering - his relationship with his own father & fears about passing on some …
Peer groups: Ravenstor autumn group 2 - warming up
13th November 2010
It's the second morning. I wrote yesterday about our arrival at this group. Didn't get to bed till later last night and slept in for longer. The conversations are beginning to "ignite". As we spend more time here, get into it, hear how deeply & openly others are prepared to …
Peer groups: Ravenstor autumn group 1 - arriving
12th November 2010
It's the first morning of this four day, peer-run Men's group. We've been meeting like this every autumn since 1993 - a collection of friends & friends of friends & friends of friends of friends! I've written extensively about these peer groups on this blog. For example, five posts on …
30th wedding anniversary ceilidh: celebration, social networks & gratitude
31st October 2010
Yesterday, Catero and I celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary with a ceilidh. This is Auld Lang Syne at the end of the party. I'm the loudmouth (on one glass of wine), with dear Catero on my left (to the right in the picture). Laura, precious stepdaughter, is three places to …
Meeting at relational depth: a model
28th October 2010
I went to a workshop on Saturday about "Relational depth". As is usually the case, chewing over the material afterwards, thinking about how it's relevant for myself & my work, following up some leads - these seem crucial activities to promote "digestion" rather than a quick learning meal that goes …