Posts tagged with 'intimacy'
A good way of assessing attachment style across a variety of close relationships: the ECR-RS questionnaire
18th April 2013
This is an extension of yesterday's blog post "Attachment style in both health professionals & their clients, therapeutic alliance & mindfulness". Nearly four years ago I wrote a blog post "Assessing attachment in adults" where I discussed this field and gave more details of the 36-item "Experiences in close relationships …
The "Balanced Measure of Psychological Needs" scale: a helpful contribution to self-determination and wellbeing assessment
16th February 2013
I'm a big fan of Self-Determination Theory (S-DT). For me it's one of the best ways into understanding flourishing and wellbeing. I use the ideas all the time in my work and in my life. The fine S-DT website at Rochester University in the States gives vast amounts more information. …
Going back for a university reunion: emotional intelligence, group work & learning to relate more deeply (3rd post)
19th August 2012
"God guard me from those thoughts men think in the mind alone; he that sings a lasting song, thinks in a marrow bone." W. B. Yeats "We camouflage our true being before others to protect ourselves against criticism or rejection. This protection comes at a steep price. When we are …
Mindfulness: the missing facet 'describe', and meeting at relational depth with self & others - practice
8th November 2011
I wrote yesterday on "Mindfulness: the missing facet 'describe', and meeting at relational depth with self & others - theory" . Today I'd like to take this into a practical example. On Sunday evening seven of us met in what we call "The enquiry group". I've described these get-togethers before …
Mindfulness: the missing facet 'describe', and meeting at relational depth with self & others - theory
7th November 2011
God guard me from those thoughts men think in the mind alone; he that sings a lasting song thinks in a marrow bone. William Butler Yeats There are good reasons for viewing "mindfulness" as made up of five facets - see, for example, the post "A better way to measure …
Andrew Christensen's "Unified protocol for couple therapy" - the five principles (four & five) and guiding functional analysis
20th August 2011
In yesterday's post I discussed the first three of Andrew Christensen's "five principles" of a "Unified protocol for couple therapy". Today I'd like to talk about his fourth and fifth principles - foster productive communication (develop more adaptive communication skills) and emphasize strengths and encourage positive behavior. The five principles …
Andrew Christensen's "Unified protocol for couple therapy" - the five principles (one, two & three)
19th August 2011
I wrote yesterday about Andrew Christensen's interesting proposal for a "Unified protocol for couple therapy". I mentioned that the protocol involves "five principles". The first of these is to: (1) provide a contextualized, dyadic, objective conceptualization of problems. Good. This makes plenty of sense. It's seeing the "wood" rather than …
Andrew Christensen's "Unified protocol for couple therapy" - overview
18th August 2011
Couple therapy was a major theme in last month's British Association for Behavioural & Cognitive Psychotherapies conference and I wrote three blog posts about this. One of several initiatives I followed up after the conference was to get a copy of the book "Enhancing couples: The shape of couple therapy …
Friendship: science, art & gratitude
11th July 2011
(this post is downloadable as both a Word doc & as a PDF file.) About every three months I meet up with one of my oldest and dearest friends and we spend twenty four hours or so together checking in on how our lives are going and what our plans …
Meeting at relational depth: a model
28th October 2010
I went to a workshop on Saturday about "Relational depth". As is usually the case, chewing over the material afterwards, thinking about how it's relevant for myself & my work, following up some leads - these seem crucial activities to promote "digestion" rather than a quick learning meal that goes …