Posts tagged with 'fathers'
"Unfinished business": emotion-focused therapy and "empty chair work"
24th April 2013
"My father considered a walk among the mountains as the equivalent of churchgoing." Aldous Huxley I'm a member of a therapists' Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) support group. We have been meeting every month or two for a while to talk about and practise using EFT methods. I wrote about this last …
A good way of assessing attachment style across a variety of close relationships: the ECR-RS questionnaire
18th April 2013
This is an extension of yesterday's blog post "Attachment style in both health professionals & their clients, therapeutic alliance & mindfulness". Nearly four years ago I wrote a blog post "Assessing attachment in adults" where I discussed this field and gave more details of the 36-item "Experiences in close relationships …
Guildford BABCP conference: fathers & child anxiety, and more on couple therapy (sixth post)
26th July 2011
Yesterday I wrote about the "Discussion on the Dodo assertion - all good depression treatments are equally effective." What happened next? It was keynote lecture time ... with a choice of four. Probably I should have cold-bloodedly chosen to go back to Don Baucom on "Relationship functioning and adult psychopathology: …
Our life stories: needs, beliefs & behaviours - part two, "beliefs"
12th September 2010
I posted yesterday on the first, "Needs" section of the "Needs, beliefs, behaviours" diagram (below). Today I want to say a little about the second section of the diagram - "Beliefs". This diagram is downloadable both as a Powerpoint slide and as a PDF file. As I said in the …
Our life stories: needs, beliefs & behaviours - part one, "needs"
11th September 2010
This is the first of a series of four brief posts giving more information about a model I use a lot, especially when working with people who are trying to change long term personality patterns. The ideas aren't at all original, although this particular way of presenting them is my …
Gratitude and dedication
15th March 2010
On the 15th March 2010 my dear, precious mother Edie Hawkins died. She was 97 and I'm writing this post ten days later. After the funeral, after the flurry of forms and arrangements and visits and paperwork have quietened down. I woke early this morning. Thought about her. A sense …
Peer groups: Cumbria autumn group – reflection
25th November 2009
Wednesday morning - about 36 hours since we got back to Edinburgh and less than a week since we began the group. The last half day started as usual with some of the "self-care practices" that quite a few us use (Tai Chi, meditation, running, and so on). Good breakfast, …
Peer groups: Cumbria autumn group – challenge & flowing on
23rd November 2009
I wrote in my last blog post how the group had begun to work more deeply/flowingly. Yesterday was the final full day. I've been dunking in the cold flood stream further upriver than during other groups. It sure wakes me up to strip and hold firmly onto roots as I …
Behavioural systems: attachment (care seeking), care giving, exploration, sex, & power
15th November 2009
This post is also available as a Word format download. I have written several blog posts about attachment in the last couple of months - "Attachment, compassion & relationships", "A couple of fine, recent books on attachment", "Some great attachment websites", and "Assessing attachment in adults". In my post on …
A couple of fine, recent books on attachment
27th September 2009
I wrote earlier this month on "Attachment, compassion & relationships". I've been aware of John Bowlby's work on adult-child attachment for many years but, when I've approached it for insights that might help in my work as a psychotherapist, I've been put off by the complexity of assessment methods and …