Posts tagged with 'mothers'
A good way of assessing attachment style across a variety of close relationships: the ECR-RS questionnaire
18th April 2013
This is an extension of yesterday's blog post "Attachment style in both health professionals & their clients, therapeutic alliance & mindfulness". Nearly four years ago I wrote a blog post "Assessing attachment in adults" where I discussed this field and gave more details of the 36-item "Experiences in close relationships …
Our life stories: needs, beliefs & behaviours - part two, "beliefs"
12th September 2010
I posted yesterday on the first, "Needs" section of the "Needs, beliefs, behaviours" diagram (below). Today I want to say a little about the second section of the diagram - "Beliefs". This diagram is downloadable both as a Powerpoint slide and as a PDF file. As I said in the …
Our life stories: needs, beliefs & behaviours - part one, "needs"
11th September 2010
This is the first of a series of four brief posts giving more information about a model I use a lot, especially when working with people who are trying to change long term personality patterns. The ideas aren't at all original, although this particular way of presenting them is my …
Peer groups, Cumbria spring group – fourth morning: honouring my mother
9th May 2010
The last morning of the group. I wake a bit "troubled". This is the ebb and flow of the group. Feelings tend to be more intense here. As the "group river" flows its four day course, I know that I'm likely to move through a series of different emotional states. …
Gratitude and dedication
15th March 2010
On the 15th March 2010 my dear, precious mother Edie Hawkins died. She was 97 and I'm writing this post ten days later. After the funeral, after the flurry of forms and arrangements and visits and paperwork have quietened down. I woke early this morning. Thought about her. A sense …
Behavioural systems: attachment (care seeking), care giving, exploration, sex, & power
15th November 2009
This post is also available as a Word format download. I have written several blog posts about attachment in the last couple of months - "Attachment, compassion & relationships", "A couple of fine, recent books on attachment", "Some great attachment websites", and "Assessing attachment in adults". In my post on …
NHS LifeCheck: online health checks for three age groups - babies, teens & mid-life
11th October 2009
People who have visited this blog a fair amount will know that I'm a huge fan of healthy lifestyle. It's a no-brainer. I've talked about this in Does healthy lifestyle really make a difference?, Common sense isn't common, Would you like to be 14 years younger - it's largely a …
Some great attachment websites
4th October 2009
Last week I wrote about "A couple of fine books on attachment". Today I want to highlight what a fantastic resource the internet is - below are details of half a dozen websites that offer lots of attachment information, and also details of further websites that are helpful but more …
A couple of fine, recent books on attachment
27th September 2009
I wrote earlier this month on "Attachment, compassion & relationships". I've been aware of John Bowlby's work on adult-child attachment for many years but, when I've approached it for insights that might help in my work as a psychotherapist, I've been put off by the complexity of assessment methods and …
Attachment, compassion & relationships
6th September 2009
Well I didn't sleep too well last night. Catero, my wife, and I went to the cinema yesterday evening and watched "500 Days of Summer" . I enjoyed it and it got me thinking about relationships. The "Summer" of the title is a woman who doesn't believe in romantic love. …