Posts tagged with 'attachment'
Therapeutic writing & speaking: inspiration from values (background information)
11th December 2010
Writing (or speaking) about our values or areas of our lives that are of particular personal importance can help us feel less threatened by stresses and more able to see situations clearly. There are many research studies demonstrating this. For example writing about personal values has been shown to reduce …
Meeting at relational depth: what gets in the way?
27th October 2010
This is the fifth in a series of six blog posts triggered by going to a workshop "Meeting at relational depth" taken by Mick Cooper in Glasgow. I've already written about two exercises we explored during the morning session - "Meeting at relational depth: what does it involve?" and "Meeting …
Meeting at relational depth: links to attachment
26th October 2010
Yesterday I wrote a post "Meeting at relational depth: what intrigued me most". I described how, in this one day workshop, I paired up with someone I'd never met before and acted as client in a 20 minute role-played counselling session. Every minute we independently estimated how deeply we felt …
Our life stories: needs, beliefs & behaviours - part four, "relationships"
14th September 2010
This is the last in a sequence of four blog posts on a "Needs, beliefs, behaviours" model that I often use to help guide psychotherapy work on longer term "personality" patterns. I've previously written about "Needs", "Beliefs" and "Behaviours". This post looks at the model's application to understanding our relationships. …
Our life stories: needs, beliefs & behaviours - part three, "behaviours"
13th September 2010
I have already written about the "Needs" and "Beliefs" sections of the "Needs, beliefs & behaviours" diagram. Today's post is about the "Behaviours" section. A fuller post from earlier this year - "Our life stories: needs, beliefs & behavours" - gives further insight into this territory. So the model is …
Our life stories: needs, beliefs & behaviours - part two, "beliefs"
12th September 2010
I posted yesterday on the first, "Needs" section of the "Needs, beliefs, behaviours" diagram (below). Today I want to say a little about the second section of the diagram - "Beliefs". This diagram is downloadable both as a Powerpoint slide and as a PDF file. As I said in the …
Our life stories: needs, beliefs & behaviours - part one, "needs"
11th September 2010
This is the first of a series of four brief posts giving more information about a model I use a lot, especially when working with people who are trying to change long term personality patterns. The ideas aren't at all original, although this particular way of presenting them is my …
Our life stories: needs, beliefs & behaviours
14th February 2010
This post describes the "Needs, beliefs & behaviours" diagrams, best viewable on screen in PDF format (slides 1 & 2 and slides 3 & 4), but also downloadable in Powerpoint format (slides 1 & 2 and slides 3 & 4). The post below is downloadable as a Word format handout. …
Recent research: three studies on sex, three on couples, and one on both!
14th January 2010
I recently asked a computer-literate friend how I could encourage more people to visit this blog (thank you to all who already do!). He said "Write more about sex and violence." Ouch. I replied, rather self-righteously, that I wasn't just interested in increasing website traffic for its own sake - …
Recent research: articles from December journals
7th January 2010
I read a lot of research. When I find an article of particular interest I download it to my bibliographic database - EndNote - which currently contains over 13,800 abstracts. Every few weeks I scan through all the articles I've found interesting in the previous month (in the general areas …